Sometimes I really have to fight feelings of isolation. I have said before that sometimes I feel like a have the same day over and over again and I feel like my contact with people in the outside world has dwindled to the practically non-existant level.
I really enjoy my blog and reading the blogs of my online friends but it isn't the same as face to face contact and true personal connections. I also feel like I have no clue what is going on in the world either. I also try to read the news online....I never watch the news because I don't want Riley and Samuel overhearing things they shouldn't hear but even with seeing things in print I don't feel like I have anyone to discuss current events with. When Jamey gets here we have little to no time just to talk. The kids demand most of his time when he first gets home, then he has to grab a shower, next he goes outside to play with the kids and water his grass, dinner time is crazy and we only discuss child appropiate subjects of course, then it is the bathtime/teeth brushing/story time/cuddle time with the kids and finally we are alone and often too tired to talk at all....and the next day my day starts all over again.
I love staying home with my kids and would love to be able to until they both start school but I REALLY miss people!!!!! I miss the people I had relationships with at work and I miss day to day contact with clients that I had the pleasure of meeting and helping.
I am looking forward to our vacation next week SO much because I am going to have a different day every day!!!! Yay!!!!! We have several day trips planned and even if we are just hanging out that will be fine too because we will be enjoying a change of scenery and I will have other people to talk to!!!! Can't wait, can't wait!!!!! I wish we were leaving tomorrow!!!!
Maybe you and Jamey could have some one-on-one time shortly after he gets home. Start a video for the kids at a certain time and let them know that this is mommy and daddy's special time. Grab some drinks and go sit on the porch together for 15 or 20 minutes. As lonely as being a SAHM can be, you can't afford to get disconnected from your spouse. Matt and I do this, but sometimes I feel like I have little to contribute to the conversion. He pretty much goes out into the world and brings all the news home to me, but hey, it's better than no news at all!
ReplyDeleteJoy first I know exactly how you feel and secondly I am so sorry. I know how those first months can be staying at home and I should put forth more effort to just "talk". Even though I have been at home for seven years now, I still miss people. I actually look forward to going to the grocery store, just to be around adults. I am very excited at starting work soon....and I will make a better effort in giving both of us some adult time together while our children run wild :)
ReplyDeleteI would LOVE to try to give you wise words of advice...truth be told, for me anyway, some weeks are better than other. Actually some YEARS are better than others. I cherish my time with my friends, even just telephone conversations! At the end of the day, Seth and I too are both pretty tired. I suggest sex. Lots and lots of sex. It's fun, YOU really don't have to do that much work, and you don't really have to talk....still it's quality time, and you sleep better, even if you have to take a second shower. Nothing like good sex to make you feel like an vibrant adult again!
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