Imagine, if you will, a person........
This is a wonderful kind hearted person.
This person is a natural "giver".
This person is a HIGHLY educated person.
This person also possesses high levels of common sense as well.
Now imagine being this person and having not only one or two but EVERYONE in your life trying constantly to no avail to open your eyes to the truth....not perceived truth but the honest to goodness, undeniable, undiluted, bonifide, right in your face breathing it's stinky, foul moist breath on your cheek...T.R.U.T.H!!!!!!
I truly believe that if each and every person (except one...the one in question) in my life that I love, honor and respect...and actually don't treat me like total crap REPEATEDLY tried to open my eyes to something or a certain subject that I would think to myself...."Hum.....maybe they are right, maybe I have been being taken advantage of for the past 10-12 YEARS!!!!...I am a complete dumb ass!!!!!!"
I know the feeling of a mother's love...I get it. Your children are as much a part of you as your own heart or right arm....BUT...what if your actions have never helped your child (adult child)???!!!! How do you let yourself go on enabling and in turn helping the child you love so much ruin their life and RUIN you financially....literally????!!!! I do not get it. I do not understand how you can not see the situation as it really is....your child or not!!!! How can you LIE to your other family members to cover for said ADULT child? How can you defend that adult child to the very end to anyone who dares speak an unkind word or toss an unkind glance in response to their latest antics???
Side note...how can you overlook your adult child (who lives with you along with her husband and preteen step daughter...mooching off of you) being MIA when you get home from an entire WEEK in the hospital???? What a homecoming! They love and respect you so much they pawn their daughter off on someone and go out to party for your homecoming...how sweet and considerate of them!
I hate the situation described above!!!!! It is heartbreaking, endless, hopeless, sad, infuriating, mind numbing, anger inducing and beyond ridiculous!!!!!
How could such an intelligent person be so clueless to the obvious? It really puzzles me!
I need to calm down so that I can get some sleep.
Later Gaters!
I feel ya! You are writing the exact same things I have thought and contemplated about someone in my life too. There is no getting a clue. There is no understanding. It is what it is! This is what I have learned through my years of trying to figure it out. There is no figuring it out. Pray for them. God is the only one who can handle them!
ReplyDeleteDenial can make otherwise intelligent people look like fools. I am sorry that you and your family are going through this.
ReplyDeleteI know it is hard to watch, but maybe she sees her daughter as the underdog and is afraid she will try to harm herself if her own mother turns against her. Just a thought, but probably not a very good one.